I was struck by a fancy a few days ago. I would pretend that my living room was a deliciously cozy coffee shop. I would go on a date with my husband to said coffee shop and enjoy a novel but also nostalgic afternoon getting caught up with myself over a hot drink.
So that’s where I am now: I’m at a coffee shop…in my living room. I found a Spotify playlist called CAFE MUSIC ~STUDIO GHIBLI Jazz & Bossa~ and it is playing pleasantly over a mini speaker. The coffee machine just served me a rich mug of decaf coffee (no paper cups here!), and I feel pretty calm. It’s either brilliant or nutty.
That’s all I wanted to share 🙂
How are you holding up?
I want to reflect on (and try to remember!) a few things that I’m trying to do to keep myself grounded in this weird and unsettling time. Caveat – this is just me, your mileage may vary :p
- Check in via text/call on all the people that I’ve been meaning to reach out to in a long time. It is a safe and easy gesture that can help to combat loneliness/isolation.
- Get my blood pumping at least once a day – preferably via funny dancing.
- Find ways to laugh – for me this has been 90% youtube and 10% spouse.
- Cleaning has been extremely therapeutic. It’s embodied and rhythmic, it feels productive, and it’s satisfying to see things shine. Also, hygiene!
- Acknowledge my anxiety and stress, rather than try to shame it away.
- Jaw and head/neck massages.
What does self-care look like for you? <3
After several months of anticipation, Fall finally came to Philadelphia…and then left in a hurry. It’s supposed to snow this week (?!), so I’m glad we got to go hiking two weekends ago. Pictured: Wissahickon park.
I love the festive season, but having spent the past three years in an essentially Mediterranean climate, I’d forgotten how bad seasonal depression can be. Some people say there’s no such thing; fine. All I know is that it’s getting increasingly hard to resist the urge to hibernate all day and that everything feels 10x more difficult than it should. I’m sure this has something to do with the fact that I am a Type 4 on the Enneagram (moody…melodramatic…angsty…etc). Oops.
Recently, I’ve been learning that while there is no easy way to feel “all better” in a flash, there are some simple and practical ways I can care for myself. I definitely believe that there are spiritual, social, genetic, etc dimensions to mood disruptions, but I’ve found that physiologically-based self-care can a great starting point when I feel overwhelmed. Here’s my list:
- Getting enough vitamin D via a supplement
- Eating foods high in omega-3s (sardines, walnuts, salmon, etc)
- Breaking a sweat a few times a week…usually dancing to tswizzle in private
- Making an effort to leave the house every day
- Establishing a morning routine (iced lemon water, stretching/yoga, journaling, hot tea)
- Playing the keyboard and singing for a few minutes before dinner
- More iced lemon water and more yoga
Some things I want to try:
- Light box
- More non-screen-related hobbies (like a huge jigsaw puzzle)
- Prioritize humor & laughing
That’s all. Stay safe everyone!