I was raised in the evangelical Christian church. I don’t mean to brag, but I was pretty good at being Christian. In college, I was actively involved in multiple fellowships at the same time. Jesus was the king of my life. I thought I might become a cross-cultural missionary. And so when yours truly, having aspired and aimed her whole life to be a GCG (Good Christian Girl), married a Jesus-loving BCB (Basic Christian Boy) at the tender age of 24, I praised God, because now the rest of my life would unfold with blissful ease. I would basically live the American Dream (Christian Edition) without ever calling it that. Because isn’t that how the narrative goes?
(Answer: No. At least not for me. That is very much not how it has gone or is going or will foreseeably go.)
If you’ve spoken to me lately, you might know that I’ve spent the past two years or so completely deconstructing that narrative, and wrestling with some tough questions about the faith I grew up in and built my whole life upon. This post isn’t going to be about that journey (phew?), but I thought I would assemble a list of resources that have helped me out in this confusing, painful, and above all utterly lonesome season of my life. In the hopes that it might help someone, anyone. Because when I started questioning things, I realized that none of the “cultural artifacts” of my faith tradition had provided me with any space for mystery, uncertainty, or exploration. They all had resolute AMENS at the end of each chapter. I needed more space to move, more space to breathe.
As a disclaimer, I don’t endorse or agree with 100% of the content on this list. I’ve tried to consume stuff on different parts of the spectrum. So some of this might feature in a book study at a fairly conservative church. And some of it, err, might not.
(Side note – as grateful as I am for these heroes and artists, I am sad that not of single one of them is Asian 😢)
But without further ado…
Non-fiction – religion/spirituality
- Falling Upward, Richard Rohr [link]
- The Universal Christ, Richard Rohr [link]
- The Divine Dance, Richard Rohr [link]
- The Most Beautiful Thing I’ve Seen, Lisa Gungor [link]
- Inspired, Rachel Held Evans [link]
- You Are Your Own: A Reckoning with the Religious Trauma of Evangelical Christianity, Jamie Lee Finch [link]
- Every Moment Holy, Douglas McKelvey [link]
- Stages of Faith, James Fowler [link, summary]
- Emotionally Healthy Spirituality, Pete Scazzero [link]
- Boundaries, Henry Cloud & John Townsend [link]
- The Crosswicks Journal (series), Madeleine L’Engle [link]
- Any fiction by Wendell Berry [link]
- Space Trilogy by C. S. Lewis [link]
- Another Name for Every Thing – this, this, this
- The Liturgists – particularly this
- Unlocking Us (with Brene Brown) – second half of this especially
- Kings Kaleidoscope (Zeal, Beauty Between)
- Gungor (Archives)
- Andy Mineo (II: The Sword)
- General permission to take a break from CCM (Contemporary Christian Music) and to wholeheartedly enjoy music that *gasp* isn’t directly praising Jesus
- Zelda: Breath of the Wild + Expansion Pack
- Centering Prayer
And while this journey has been very lonely, I have had some truly incredible people come alongside me – in little ways and big ways – to offer comfort, wisdom, and laughs. Some of them are pastors and seminary professors. Some of them don’t believe in God. One of them is my wonderful spouse. They are all priceless. They are the reason I am still showing up, still have hope, still love the light. To these wonderful human beings: thank you.